Tired.

I’m not sure if I can get any more tired.

Daily, I struggle with the pull of my own body’s failings.

How do I shake it off, when each time I think I can, something else is first added on, and then I have to start all over?

The drag of each next appointment. The lack of motivation to work. The slow removal of the ability to work. The diminished quality of my work.

How can I convince myself to continue with school and work, when I can barely keep my head over the “to do’s” continuously trying to drown me? I do I keep up my effort to stay above it? How can I keep up?

The pain is growing. Even just weeks ago, I considered my pain more of a “come and go” type of pain, with a very low level of continuous pain. It has changed. For weeks, the continuous pain has been steadily getting higher on the scale.

I know mine is still nothing compared to so many out there like me, but pain is personal, and mine is overwhelming me. It exhausts me. It makes it difficult to think, to talk, to open my eyes, to smile. I’m tired.

I’m not sure if I can get any more tired.

But then again…I have another appointment tomorrow.

 

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Back to Work

I’m sorry it has been so long since I have posted on here. As I mentioned before, I have started working full time in addition to my three graduate level courses, so I’m very beat nearly every day. I have a couple of updates for today.

I saw a geneticist not long ago and learned even more updated information about EDS, and it really opened my eyes to how little EDS is actually what causes the most pain and problems. Much of the issues I have, like Sjogren’s, sleep apnea, herniated discs, psoriasis, terribly dry, itchy skin, hypertension and more are actually from pre-dispositions in genetics. Interestingly, none of these things are genetic, but they do tend to run in families, and having close family members with them tends to increase the risk of getting them. In our family, that risk increases ten-fold apparently. All of these conditions can be significant issues on their own. All of them can be attributed from my father and most of my sisters and I suffer from many or all of them. With autoimmune disorders, you may not get the same disorder as the family member, but you are more likely to get some autoimmune disorder if a family member has one. Sjogren’s and Psoriasis are autoimmune, and my father has Psoriasis and rheumatoid arthritis and I got Sjogren’s and another sister has rheumatoid arthritis. My father also has sleep apnea, heart disease, herniated discs and other issues. Another of my sisters has herniated discs as well, and most have some sleep problems. It’s funny to me that we have this rare genetic disorder, but it seems to be quite mild compared to the multitude of other issues we have.

With at least one exception.

My sister “J” seems to have the most problematic EDS symptoms of all of us. She gets recurring spinal fluid leaks and more pain and fatigue than any of us. She often must use a wheelchair/electric chair, and is at times bed-bound. With four boys 11 and under, this can be very difficult. It makes it hard for her to do basic things for herself and her family. Her husband is a firefighter and so can’t always be there to help. To get the leaks fixed, she has to go across country to a specialist in Los Angeles. There she can have several tests done and then surgery to close the leak. It is very expensive and even just getting there is very hard for them. They’ve made it work a few times now with help from donations and family. She is so strong, like most with chronic illnesses.

In other news, work is exhausting and I am barely keeping it together. It is so conflicting for me because I LOVE to be working, especially in a job like I am in now, where I am constantly learning so much about my field of interest. This job is just a ‘temp’ job but it has valuable things to teach me. There has been talk of a permanent position, but I feel like I’m being tossed around, unsure of where I’m going or if I will be dropped. It gets a little irritating not to know whether I will have a job in a month or not. However, at the same time I am so tired every day that I know it would probably be better for me physically to stop working again until I finish my graduate degree. The problem is that I love to work, and I really need the experience, because I have very little in my field, and jobs that my degree qualifies me for, also require several years of experience. So I am trying to figure out a middle ground.

Well, thanks for returning and catching up with me, please comment and visit my sister’s page if you can, even if just to say good luck or something.

Love all,

E&O

 

Dream Hard

One of the most important thing to me is to be able to dream. Some of my most memorable recurring dreams involves flying. Flying in a dream is the most freeing, amazing feeling. There have been some especially difficult days that have left me wishing for my flying dream before bed. I close my eyes and imagine myself standing on a cliff with the wind blowing, keeping me standing, leaning slightly forward. As I am standing there, I let my body relax and imagine being in the sky, able to go anywhere. And then I jump.

The exhilarating freedom is beyond compare.

When I wake up, I keep my eyes closed, willing myself to go back to the skies.

But in life, we need to be allowed to dream. Not just in sleep. I dream about making a difference in the world, about making a good, comfortable, happy life. I am working toward it. Each day, I try to stay on this path of trying to better myself. It is the reason I have been in school, well, forever. Every time I could stop, I don’t want to. I really hope that after I get my graduate degree, I can feel done with school.

Part of the reason it has taken so long to finish school, is the fact that I changed my dreams several times. Dreams don’t have to stay the same. But I think if you want to change them, you have to REALLY be sure that you want to change. I am one of those people that can generally do well at a lot of things, and I am very interested in learning about lots of different things. It is really hard to find something you are passionate about when you have interest in everything. I have found that in my life there has always been one thing I kept going back to: language, writing, reading, words. With my medical concerns, I have had to make some changes in my life. While I am not pursuing teaching anymore, I have found something that I haven’t lost interest. I look forward to learning. I want to read my textbooks, to research about it. I know I have found my place. I never would have found it, if I didn’t allow myself to dream, to dream HARD.

Additional note: I never would have been able to dream hard without others in my life respecting my dreams, and helping me find my way. Thank you.

Preparing to Work

I used to work in logistics while active duty in the Air Force, which is likely part of the reason my body is so messed up these days. When I got out of the military I spent about a year home with my kids, then still very small, a newborn and a one year old. Just after my diagnosis with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, I got a job as a Secretary in the base medical clinic. Shortly after I started, I was finally able to get some of the initial tests and specialists appointments due to my EDS diagnosis. With each appointment, something new was found. By the time I left that job to move up here, my diagnosis list had grown exponentially. And it seems like they all include the phrase, “you’ll be dealing with this the rest of your life.” Gee. Thanks.

With Ehlers-Danlos, I also deal with Sjogren’s syndrome, dysautonomia, herniated discs, PCOS, Sleep Apnea, Neuropathy, high blood pressure, IBS, and more. Let’s just say, I see about 9 or 10 different specialists, with at least 5 of them on a regular basis.

Going back to work always brings with it certain challenges. I love to work. Being at home these last several months gets me fidgety. Not that I haven’t been busy, I have been studying for my master’s degree. I have so much to do with school, that work will probably incredibly stress me out. I just really like the feeling of working, learning and earning money.

This great opportunity came up for a temporary position where I can learn so much in relation to my degree, and I am excited to start on MONDAY. With extremely short notice, it is a little scary, but I’m just glad I dyed my hair back to a natural color a couple of weeks ago. So now, I need to prepare myself to be able to do everything. I need to prepare for the extra stress on my body, my mind, even less sleep than I get already, only being able to do school work late at night and weekends, and the drain of potentially dealing with dramatic and petty people.

Some of the things I am doing, is getting as far ahead in school as I can right now, and setting a to do list that allows me to check off every assignment, every reading, every lecture that I have to do. This app, Wundlerlist. is working perfectly for me and allows me to make lists of different types of tasks. I have started using it for other tasks I generally forget easily. Lists are extremely useful for someone with brain fog. Also, I am doing all the cleaning and laundry that I can manage until Sunday. Sunday I am going to relax as much as I can, maybe use that day to do as much homework as possible, because Monday is going to be a crazy new schedule.

What do you do to prepare for work or to help with the stress of working or for changes in schedules or activities?